My husband went to visit a friend yesterday afternoon. When he came back, I asked him “what all” happened there.
“Well,” he said, “when I arrived, my friend’s mum was feeding my friend his lunch.” Oh, you mean serving him his lunch? “No”, he replied. “his mum was feeding him his lunch with her hand”. And how old is your friend? “Around 30 years old”.
I’m fully aware that Indian mothers often hand feed their sons until they are quite old. However, I was shocked (and even a little appalled) that an adult man could still be getting hand fed by his mother!
Knowing that my husband, the eldest son, got treated like a chota raja (little king) when he was growing up, I asked him when his mother stopped feeding him. “When I was about 15 and started going out often”, he replied. And, do you think she’d still feed you now, at age 35, if you asked her to? “Yes, but she’d tell me it isn’t good”.
Hmmm. Now, I’m wondering what is normal in India in relation to this kind of behaviour. What will happen when the 30 year old Peter Pan man, who’s still being hand fed, gets married. Will his wife be expected to take over feeding duties? Or will his mother keep doing it? Or, will he finally become a grown up and start feeding himself?
All you Indian men out there, I’d love to hear about your situations. Do you still like to be hand fed? Or, up to what age did you get fed?