We have new neighbours. They first made their presence known a week or so ago, when they knocked on our door to borrow matches for the puja (worship) they were performing in their apartment.
Two days ago, they were back again. I heard a commotion coming from their side of the building. Their balcony faces the street, so I though it may have been a procession happening (the bholanath bull was in the area after all!).
Being very Indian in my behaviour, I opened the door to see what was going on. I quickly shut it again though (although I must admit, not all the way. I did leave the door open enough so that I could peep through it!).
The commotion wasn’t a procession. It was the new neighbours having a heated altercation with the real estate broker. There were at least six of them, and they were all yelling loudly at the broker. The only words I could understand were “paisa” (money) and “chabi” (key).
Yesterday, the new neighbours moved in. I became acquainted with them very quickly because they were knocking on my door almost every 10 minutes.
First, they wanted me to close our security door from inside and remove our door mat and rubbish bin, to make way for their furniture. Next, they wanted to borrow a small table (so the electrician could stand on it to install their ceiling fans).
Then came their biggest request of all. In India, neighbours don’t come to borrow a cup of sugar! Instead, they wanted to connect a cable to our power supply until theirs was turned on in a day or two. Was I understanding them properly? They wanted to use our power supply? I had to phone my husband, who was at work, to deal with this request. Being the big-hearted guy he is, he agreed. Never mind the fact that it’s supposedly illegal.
Ten minutes later, there was another knock on the door. The new neighbours wanted to borrow a portable fan (to cool themselves until the ceiling fans were all installed). I really didn’t understand what they were asking for this time, so they came inside our apartment to look for what they wanted. Thus, the inspection of our apartment commenced. All rooms were thoroughly examined and exclaimed upon (even after it was apparent that we didn’t have a portable fan!).
As I’ve mentioned previously, I find the lack of privacy the hardest thing to deal with in India. Therefore, the familiar feelings of angst started rising. It was exacerbated by the fact that we live in a Gujurati building, these people were Gujuratis, and the numerous bottles of wine that we recently brought back from Sula vineyards were proudly displayed on the kitchen bench (most Gujuratis don’t drink alcohol).
Kyaa kare? I announced to the neighbours that I was going to look inside their apartment. They seemed delighted with this idea. However, I was stunned when I reached their kitchen. It was engulfed in a sea of silver. Every surface was occupied by a silver tin. There was literally nowhere to move. And there were more silver tins, of various shapes and sizes, still waiting to be unpacked. My reaction amused them even more, and we were all laughing.
I discovered that there would only be four people living in the apartment — two parents and a young newly married couple.
They all seemed nice enough, so I decided to be friendly and give them some ladoos (sweets) to welcome them. This earned me another invitation into their apartment, where the usual questions were asked. What are you doing in India? Can you speak Gujurati? Can you cook? What can you cook? Have you cooked dinner yet? (Most of the questions revolved around food, of course). Do you have children?.
Needless to say, there was one more knock on our door last night. To borrow a phone charger.
Early this morning, the knocking recommenced. The new neighbours again. They wanted to warm some milk. Apparently they don’t have gas yet. Or hot water.
It was very bad timing.
I was in the process of warming some leftover chicken for my husband’s breakfast. Gujuratis are vegetarians. And the landlord initially didn’t want to lease our apartment to us because we aren’t Gujuratis or vegetarians. Quickly, I tried to put the chicken back into the fridge. I only partially succeeded. And the wine bottles were still fully on display. The neighbour was in the kitchen for over five minutes, which was plenty of time for her to look at the offensive items.
I’m still reeling from the experience. And I’m left wondering, why do people move into an apartment before having all the necessary facilities (gas, electricity) connected?
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Finally had a word with one of my them…and looks like we won’t be in such a bad situation finally…..My neighbor says probably he’ll come to sleep with his wife…THAT’S it!! I was expecting it to be lot worse…
but yes at times there are no limits what people might expect/ask, but at the same time you have people who are cocooned in their own world…Just to give u an example, my best friend would normally not let me sleep (not physically, but i know he won’t be comfortable with me sleeping over at his place with my wife without a good reason) at his place and would not normally come to sleep at my place…and he is my best frnd…..
To tell you honestly, my wife kept telling me in last two days that we should rather help them and let 5-6 people sleep at our place and at times even i felt that we should allow them and not be a “bad” neighbor. Probably that’s what sets our country apart (I am not an avid traveler but have extensively worked with Europeans and American, but not so much so as to take a call on what they think and how they live; nevertheless this is what i feel; probably u are better suited to comment on this..)!! I meant diversity and most of the people (at least in the present generation) being constantly torn between traditional approach and “new age” approach (or thinking)…
okay, coming back to the topic, i am still waiting for “D-Day”…So i’ll next update on Monday…
It is interesting (and often a good thing) how everyone is so accommodating towards each other in India. In the west, people have plenty of space (spare rooms even) but would never dream of asking such a neighbour (or even friends really) to have strangers stay, because of the inconvenience and intrusion on privacy. No one really has to worry about being a “bad” neighbour or friend, because such requests are never put upon them in the first place. Boundaries are clearly drawn, whereas they’re not in India. It’s a shame though that people, such as yourself, do feel “bad” if they don’t want to be obliging. It seems that people feel like they are forced to comply with requests here, even if it makes them uncomfortable. The person who does the asking is the one who should be feeling bad for making the request in the first place!
Looking forward to the D-Day update!
hmmm….this was more of a anti-climax…..No one came to sleep at our place yesterday….not even a single soul – can you believe that?
looks like for a change, luck was on our side…As u must have its been raining pretty heavily since yesterday morning. So I believe most of their relatives couldn’t make it to their place for the party….So it turns out that i was unnecessarily getting hyper about the entire thing…
Just one thing – okay, now the D day has passed, can we have some sun now….:)
Oh, even I’m disappointed.
What an “India” moment…. expect the expected not to happen, and expect the unexpected!! It happens to me all the time. I find myself getting stressed and hyper, and then nothing eventuates! But then something completely unexpected will come along to rock my boat — such as an unexpected visit that disrupts my plans.
I agree, bring out the sun. Days of dull weather really is making me feel a bit low now.
I know what you exactly meant by those lines…I generally like rains, but not for this long….and specially after it ruined my “sunrise” visit to Aksa beach (did that on Sunday morning, even though it was raining)…..
Hey, since you write on travel, can you help me with places worth exploring around mumbai? I am particularly after places full of natural beauty (and are relatively unexplored) and are worth going on a bike…(I love travelling by bike as compared to travelling by car or bus or trains etc..)
I have been to Malshej Ghats and Kotlighat (Kothlighat was simply “out of this world” experience)…
Hoping to see a long list of places soon…Thanks in advance..
You had to ask the hard question didn’t you!
I am very guilty of traveling all over India but failing to explore my own back yard, so to speak! I’m so sorry I can’t be of much help to you. I’ll see if I can do some research and find out though. You have actually given me some ideas of where I should visit around Mumbai!
Hey, no issues, it was just that i thought that might have been to some places yourself and would be able to give some first hand info. But no issues, i know of couple sites that list weekend getaways around Mumbai, so i’ll probably bank on them!!
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