Comments on: More Fun and Games in the Garden

By: Akash

Akash — Tue, 02 Mar 2010 21:33:31 +0000

This is something ridiculous which happens in every City. I think unless good education and thinking are made available to all such things will continue. Another reason is the closed society.

By: Ramit

Ramit — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:43:45 +0000

You’re writing a book? Hey no one told us!

By: Sharell

Sharell — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 11:53:38 +0000

Hi Jeetendra, gee, I think I’d prefer India to Dubai! The book is under negotiation at the moment. Hopefully 2010 will bring it to fruition!

By: Jeetendra K Motwani

Jeetendra K Motwani — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 13:25:05 +0000

HI Sharell, Good one on ya…

I think you’re definitely very brave to try out a new country & its people. I’m Indian, my wife’s indian but we live in dubai cos my wife doesn’t like India. How hypocritical is that ??

Anyway good stuff that you’ve written. When I start to write my bloody pen (the keyboard) starts going here and there and i forget what i started to write about.

Wish I could have a writing sense just like you writers do.. (being able to explain very clearly and informatively what you want to say)..

Nice blogs….When’s the book coming out ???

By: Amrita

Amrita — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:41:09 +0000

I think you were very brave.

By: vandana

vandana — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 11:43:41 +0000

As a woman I can imagine how infuriating it must be to be ogled at or hassled, each time you step out of the house but maybe as some readers have pointed out wearing some more obvious ” signs of marriage” may alleviate the problem to some extent, Sharell. Have you tried discussing this with your husband?
In the same vein, I wonder if you are aware that hassling and passing of racist comments occurs in Australia too, to a noticable extent and though it is of a different nature to the kind faced by you, it can be just as irritating. Many Indians and others asians like Chinese face this, though it is not gender-based, men and women can get it in equal doses. BUT we too have learned to give as good as we get to passing comments or loud shouts at traffic lights e.g. ” go back to your country” or ” curry munchers” to the Indians and ” slopies” and ” chinkies” to the Chinese.
My children who were born here, have faced these racist comments too!! Once a kindly looking old lady came up to my son as he was parking his car, with Hindi Bhangra music playing on his sound-system and told him to start listening to English music in Australia, in loud & rude bigoted words. My son having grown up here, retaliated with such choice words that I think she will cross the road next time she sees an Indian person.
Thus you see, you should face up to those ogling men bravely as you have been doing upto now and not give it a second’s thought. Just think, In Australia at least you don’t face racism of the kind some of us do, just as I, in India don’t face unwelcome attentions of the magnitude you do.
Take care and have a nice trip.

By: Ramit

Ramit — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 16:28:54 +0000

Nice guy you got there Sharell who wants to wear his wedding ring all the time. If only my wife could say that about me!

By: Ramit

Ramit — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 16:27:31 +0000

Rahul, it was a general comment not pointed at anyone in particular but thanks for noticing. Appreciate it.

By: Sharell

Sharell — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 08:26:13 +0000

Hi Rahul, I know I’m very fortunate. My husband is like my best friend, and me like his. Somehow, we just manage to meet perfectly in the middle (although we do of course have cultural clashes at times — such as when I get frustrated over him wanting to stop and ask for directions, which usually turn out to be wrong, all the time). It’s so lovely how his wedding ring has such meaning to him (he says he never wants to take it off). I’m very lucky. I’d be a little upset if he was one of those men who didn’t like wearing a wedding ring (we have them in the west too, don’t worry Boston123).

Oh, I know all about “ji”. It is a very useful word. Sometimes, I use it when I meet an older, well respected person for the first time. “Namaste ji”.

As for speaking English, if only Indians would understand my Australian accented English. I’ve had to adopt a rather ridiculous sounding melodious Indian accent to be understood here. And speak slowly. If only Hindi speakers would return the favour to me, and speak slowly!

By: Rahul

Rahul — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 07:13:32 +0000

I read my post and just noticed
Gee not to sound like Ghee [which is unsalted butter]
Ji= Gi [has to sound like G in medium long extended ]
Damm it
Ask your husband i think he can explain better way! I tried …