About Me

December 2005. I was an accountant, on long service leave from my uninspiring government job in Melbourne (Australia), and doing community work in Calcutta. My future husband was a DJ, with a residency at one of Calcutta’s biggest nightclubs. Fate drew us together one night, and transformed my life into something unrecognizable.

Now, we live in Mumbai. I write and maintain About.com’s India Travel website, write feature articles for various publications, and have also written a book. For the first time in my life, I’m doing work that motivates me and that I love. My husband works in the family business as well as produces his own music.

My life lacks so many of the material things that I used to have, but I feel so much more fulfilled and free. I’ve learned to take chances, be courageous, adapt, and appreciate the little things in life that bring a smile to my face.

The path that my life has taken isn’t always easy. There are days that I feel so frustrated, uncomfortable, and homesick. But there are other days where I feel incredibly inspired as well.

There’s a saying, “I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I ended up where I needed to be”. And another saying, “Our most satisfying dreams are the ones we create — not the ones we cling to”.

That just about sums up my life at the moment.

And of course, if hadn’t have met my husband, this adventure would most likely never have happened! There is no doubt that being loved deeply by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.

You can read more about my journey here:

How India Helped Me Find My Purpose in Life
Finding Myself in Kolkata

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Indrasis April 6, 2010 at 11:18 pm

Hej Sharell,

Greetings from Bangalore.
I have been reading your blogs for a while now and I truly believe that your blogs have been a trendsetter in expat blogs.
Hope read more of your journey from aussie-land to curry-land:)


Sharell April 7, 2010 at 7:44 am

Hi Indrasis, wow, thanks so much for such a wonderful complement. I’m honoured! Really glad that you enjoy my blog so much. :-D

Manoj April 14, 2010 at 12:17 pm

Great blog discovery, nice to read about Indian culture from a different perspective. All articles are packed with interesting insights ( I am gonna read them one by one) . I remember once I was travelling with a friend of mine from USA (a white girl) and we had mixed experience in being accepted at places like restaurant, tourist spots etc. Most the time people thought I am her travel guide! They could never accept the fact that we are colleague and working together.

Sharell April 14, 2010 at 12:35 pm

Hi Manoj, welcome to the blog! :-) I can totally relate to your travel experiences with a white girl. If it’s hard enough to try and convince Indian people that you’re colleagues, imagine what it’s like to try and convince them that you’re husband and wife! ;-) AND, it works in the opposite way too. If I’m out with a white guy, Indian people automatically assume we’re a couple! It’s been a real eye-opener for me. And the “abnormality” is hard to deal with sometimes.

Amit Desai April 14, 2010 at 9:23 pm

“…Most the time people thought I am her travel guide!…”

This is truly interesting. Indians seem to have an honest and realistic judgment about them. In other words, most Indians still see their relationship with whites as servant-master or an alien-opposite race/culture/society. I may be visiting India this year with my girlfriend. It would be amazing to see how many people think that I am her guide or servant!

Sharell July 1, 2009 at 3:54 pm

Ms Manners, it’s come to my attention that you’re posting from the same IP address as Can’t Beat Em and Black Dude. It’s unlikely that there are three people using that IP address, so please stick to one user name.

Sharell December 1, 2009 at 4:41 pm

Hypocrite likes to confuse people with different identities.